Eyes to See
Pray to have eyes that see the best in people, a heart that forgives the worst, a mind that forgets the bad, and a soul that never loses faith in God.
Different Drums, Different Drummers
If I don’t want what you want, please don’t tell me I am wrong.
If I believe differently than you, at least pause before you correct my view. If my emotion is less or more than yours, given the same circumstances, don’t ask me to feel more or less than you.
If I act, or fail to act, in a manner of your design for action, let me be.
I’m not asking you to understand me—that will only come when you stop trying to change me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your child, or your colleague. If you allow me my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, you must open yourself so that someday, my ways won’t seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right —for me.
To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. By understanding me, you might come to prize my differences from you, and instead of trying to change me, you’ll preserve and nurture those differences.
What is This Storm Trying to Tell You?
In life, we think the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem. The real truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together for a time, then they fall back apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that.
Personal discovery and growth come from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.
Suffering comes from wishing things were different. Misery is self-inflicted. When we are expecting the "ideal" to overcome the "actual" or need things, people or places to be different for us so we can then be happy.
Let the hard things in life break you. Let them affect you. Let them change you. Let these hard moments inform you. Let pain be your teacher.
Your life’s experiences are trying to tell you something about yourself. Don't cop out on that. Don't run away and hide under your covers. Lean into it.
What is the lesson in this wind? What is this storm trying to tell you? What will you learn if you face it with courage, with full honesty and lean into it?
Based on Our Choices
Everything you do is based on the choices you make. You can't blame it on your parents, past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument, or your age. You are responsible for every decision and choice you make.